Hi, there! Since you’re reading this I’m going to assume that you’re desperate for a breather. So, I want you to take a second – even if it’s just in the time between your baby’s wails or your work’s demanding texts or before the oven goes off ready for a recipe – and I want you to close your eyes and take in a deep, full breath.
You’re already well on track to finding guilt free time for yourself in a demanding world.
Let that air fill your lungs, swelling up inside of you, calming your fast paced heart.
You deserve that moment.
You deserve many more moments.
Between demanding children and spouses and work lives, it can be so difficult to find a second to just breathe without that lingering feeling of guilt.
What exactly do we have to feel guilty about, anyway? That we could take those five minutes that you lay on the couch with your aching feet propped up to prep dinner or finish a spreadsheet?
Let me level with you here.
You need to take time for yourself. In a world that is constantly buzzing with activity and busywork and people, you desperately need to set aside even a few minutes to relax, unwind, and get to know yourself again.
Without that, you face the risk of overexertion, exhaustion, and the sadness that comes with falling out of sync with your own self.
Here are a few simple ways that you can find time for yourself in this busy, crazy world.
1) Enjoy that Morning Coffee!
There’s nothing like that first cup of coffee in the morning. If you’re more of a tea person then that’s fine, or just water with lemon, whatever you choose to start your day with. Something about that whole experience is magical. Don’t hurry through it while skimming your emails or planning your day.
Sit down on your patio and enjoy the morning. Feel the breeze, enjoy the taste of your favorite breakfast drink, and relax. Even if you can’t sit through the whole cup without returning to the kids or to work that still needs to be done, at least take those first few relaxing sips to ease that morning tiredness and center yourself.
I love to go for a run first thing in the morning. I live in Florida, where it is HOT, and so if I’m going to be outside for any length of time, it has to be early. Sometimes it’s an endurance run, sometimes it’s just a soft jog or even a walk, but it always gives me at least a few minutes all to myself and my body.
If I get up early enough, I like to watch the sun come up while I jog. There’s something so calming and soothing about seeing the sky change color, and it always sets me up for a productive day.
If you can’t go outside, or just plain don’t want to, then do some light stretching or yoga. If you’re trying to relax and find inner peace with children around, believe me when I say that they will be very interested in this! You don’t have to do anything fancy, but teach them breathing skills and fun poses like downward dog. They’ll be distracted and you’ll have a precious moment of quiet and stillness that can be hard to come by in a busy home.
3) Make a Schedule!
As tedious and un-fun as this can be for people who don’t like to micromanage, this can also be a surefire way to find some time for yourself in a busy day.
You’ll know when the kids will be off to school and return, what time your proposal is due or when a bill needs to be paid, and you’ll also be able to pencil in a ten minute meditation session or nap while you’re at it!
When you have all of your daily tasks lined up, it will be clear when your own personal little break can slide right in. Believe me, that time is there if you’re willing to plan ahead and search for it.
This will also give you a rundown of what you’re getting done. It can be difficult to take a minute to relax when you feel like you’re getting nothing accomplished, but with this list in front of you, you’ll clearly be able to see how productive you’re being and how much you deserve that little breather.
It’s not selfish to take a deep breath after a long, exhausting day. It’s not selfish to sit down with a glass of wine after your child has finally gone to bed. It’s not selfish to draw a bath after a long shift at work when the laundry still needs finishing.
Let me repeat that for you. It is not selfish to desire alone time sometimes, even when other people are so dependent on you. In fact, taking those precious few minutes to recuperate will make you a better parent, partner, and worker.
You’ll feel more refreshed and ready to get back at it, you’ll be generally happier, and you will be more relaxed.
You deserve that time to yourself, so remember these tips when you start to feel stressed out and frazzled. You got this!
What do you do to unwind?